One of the biggest issues I have to deal with when it comes to my students is the idea that they are too ugly to attract women.
There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as: They could be too old. Some men think they are too fat. They could be too short. Some men think they are too ugly.
I want to take a moment and dispel a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.
Myth #1 - You have to be good looking to get women.
Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true. Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness. Is there a difference?
The difference is, you may not escape your looks, but you do control your presentation of what looks you do have by the way you groom and wear your hair as well as how you smell and the clothes you wear, and so forth. Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive.
Myth #2 - Women and Men Think Alike
It's natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.
Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you. Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.
You naturally assume that women size you up in the same manner.
Incorrect.
Women judge men differently to decide on an attraction than men do, although that is not to imply that a woman would not care if a man were attractive or not. Even so, women do not consider physical characteristics in the same way as men do.
A woman's attraction bases itself around how a man makes them feel, rather than how a man might look. This is why social status and confidence attract women. Men who make them laugh, they find attractive. Being good at what you do attracts women. Try to understand how this works. For women, looks have very little to do with all of this.
Myth #3 - Women Notice Men's Insecurities
Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves - our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline.
No matter what it is, we see it!
Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.
A lot of guys try and dismiss their insecurities by calling attention to it, as if to try and "diffuse" whatever it is they feel is ugly about them. But all this does is draw the woman's attention to this insecurity, and only at that point do people notice it.
Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it. In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.
Myth #4 - Good Looking Guys Have It Easy
Those men have their own set of problems with women. Clearly in the beginning being attractive physically does help, however they have the same issues as the rest of us.
Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.
If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.
However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn't initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure - she WILL become attracted to him eventually.
Others want to be around you when you make them feel good; this is one of the basics of attraction.
You don't have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.
When you begin to lead a woman down the path of sexual attraction, even if you don't look like Brad Pitt, she's going to begin to see you in a whole new light - despite any of the shortcomings you may think you have.
There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as: They could be too old. Some men think they are too fat. They could be too short. Some men think they are too ugly.
I want to take a moment and dispel a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.
Myth #1 - You have to be good looking to get women.
Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true. Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness. Is there a difference?
The difference is, you may not escape your looks, but you do control your presentation of what looks you do have by the way you groom and wear your hair as well as how you smell and the clothes you wear, and so forth. Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive.
Myth #2 - Women and Men Think Alike
It's natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.
Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you. Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.
You naturally assume that women size you up in the same manner.
Incorrect.
Women judge men differently to decide on an attraction than men do, although that is not to imply that a woman would not care if a man were attractive or not. Even so, women do not consider physical characteristics in the same way as men do.
A woman's attraction bases itself around how a man makes them feel, rather than how a man might look. This is why social status and confidence attract women. Men who make them laugh, they find attractive. Being good at what you do attracts women. Try to understand how this works. For women, looks have very little to do with all of this.
Myth #3 - Women Notice Men's Insecurities
Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves - our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline.
No matter what it is, we see it!
Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.
A lot of guys try and dismiss their insecurities by calling attention to it, as if to try and "diffuse" whatever it is they feel is ugly about them. But all this does is draw the woman's attention to this insecurity, and only at that point do people notice it.
Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it. In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.
Myth #4 - Good Looking Guys Have It Easy
Those men have their own set of problems with women. Clearly in the beginning being attractive physically does help, however they have the same issues as the rest of us.
Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.
If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.
However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn't initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure - she WILL become attracted to him eventually.
Others want to be around you when you make them feel good; this is one of the basics of attraction.
You don't have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.
When you begin to lead a woman down the path of sexual attraction, even if you don't look like Brad Pitt, she's going to begin to see you in a whole new light - despite any of the shortcomings you may think you have.
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