We all get pissed off from time to time. I'm not going to pretend that arguments aren't going to happen. They will, but there's no sense saying something foolish while you're fighting about chores or what to have for dinner.
Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #1 - You Say You're Pregnant
A few women will tell a guy that they're pregnant when things start to take a turn for the worse, hoping that he'll stay with her.. If you're thinking of playing the "pregnancy card," think again. For a lot of women, thinking about becoming a parent might be enough to get them to stick it out with a man, but if you and your boyfriend have been having trouble, this is the last thing he wants to hear from you.
First off, you boyfriend is going to feel like you're trapping him in a position he doesn't want to be in. Frankly, if he is feeling miserable with you, he isn't going to feel great about the idea of being trapped with someone that makes him feel miserable.
On the other hand, if you in fact are pregnant, then he will be scared to death about it. Heck, he's likely to try and talk you into getting an abortion. Not quite the loving moment, you pictured. Don't believe TV. I know that a lot of TV shows like to make men look like complete idiots, but most men are sensible enough to know that a child isn't going to miraculously make a bad relationship into a good one.
If you just fabricated the whole story, that is not good either. He'll find out at some point. Is it really going to help you if he thinks you are a manipulative liar on top of all the other arguments you've been having?
Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #2 - Telling Him You Fooled Around
Sometime things can get out of hand and you just want to make him feel some agony. Maybe you want to tell him that you hooked up with one of your coworkers that time you were working late at your workplace. I'd be lying if I said I never have done something similar. But how is this going to help you out? All it will do is aggravate your boyfriend for ever trusting an easy woman like you.
You got it, all this is going to do is make you look like a sleazy woman that doesn't deserve any respect. Now, I'm going out on a limb here and I'm assuming that this isn't exactly the kind of reputation you're wanting for yourself.
Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #3 - Telling Him His Unit is 2 Sizes Too Small
This is absolutely something you really don't want to bring up. Of course you will probably succeed in making him feel inferior. However, you'll just be cutting yourself down simultaneously.
Stunts like this will only cast you in a negative light because you'll seem very shallow like you're more interested in size than skill, if you know what I mean. All you'll be doing is making yourself look like the female version of a construction worker that cat-calls at every woman in a pretty outfit that walks by (no offense to any construction workers out there). This isn't how a stylish woman acts.
These 3 mistakes are things that women seem to do on a regular basis despite the fact that they simply end up backfiring on them. Trust me, I know how difficult it can be in the heat of the moment to stay cool, but you have to make sure that you act like a sophisticated and refined woman. It may be tempting to try to humiliate your boyfriend, but it's important not to tear yourself down at the same time.
Plus, the more stupid things you say, the more hurt you're going to need to fix if you want to save your relationship. I know it's hard to do so in the heat of the moment, but you'll want to keep a long-term view. Ask yourself "is this something I'm going to regret saying later?" before you let it out.
Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #1 - You Say You're Pregnant
A few women will tell a guy that they're pregnant when things start to take a turn for the worse, hoping that he'll stay with her.. If you're thinking of playing the "pregnancy card," think again. For a lot of women, thinking about becoming a parent might be enough to get them to stick it out with a man, but if you and your boyfriend have been having trouble, this is the last thing he wants to hear from you.
First off, you boyfriend is going to feel like you're trapping him in a position he doesn't want to be in. Frankly, if he is feeling miserable with you, he isn't going to feel great about the idea of being trapped with someone that makes him feel miserable.
On the other hand, if you in fact are pregnant, then he will be scared to death about it. Heck, he's likely to try and talk you into getting an abortion. Not quite the loving moment, you pictured. Don't believe TV. I know that a lot of TV shows like to make men look like complete idiots, but most men are sensible enough to know that a child isn't going to miraculously make a bad relationship into a good one.
If you just fabricated the whole story, that is not good either. He'll find out at some point. Is it really going to help you if he thinks you are a manipulative liar on top of all the other arguments you've been having?
Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #2 - Telling Him You Fooled Around
Sometime things can get out of hand and you just want to make him feel some agony. Maybe you want to tell him that you hooked up with one of your coworkers that time you were working late at your workplace. I'd be lying if I said I never have done something similar. But how is this going to help you out? All it will do is aggravate your boyfriend for ever trusting an easy woman like you.
You got it, all this is going to do is make you look like a sleazy woman that doesn't deserve any respect. Now, I'm going out on a limb here and I'm assuming that this isn't exactly the kind of reputation you're wanting for yourself.
Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #3 - Telling Him His Unit is 2 Sizes Too Small
This is absolutely something you really don't want to bring up. Of course you will probably succeed in making him feel inferior. However, you'll just be cutting yourself down simultaneously.
Stunts like this will only cast you in a negative light because you'll seem very shallow like you're more interested in size than skill, if you know what I mean. All you'll be doing is making yourself look like the female version of a construction worker that cat-calls at every woman in a pretty outfit that walks by (no offense to any construction workers out there). This isn't how a stylish woman acts.
These 3 mistakes are things that women seem to do on a regular basis despite the fact that they simply end up backfiring on them. Trust me, I know how difficult it can be in the heat of the moment to stay cool, but you have to make sure that you act like a sophisticated and refined woman. It may be tempting to try to humiliate your boyfriend, but it's important not to tear yourself down at the same time.
Plus, the more stupid things you say, the more hurt you're going to need to fix if you want to save your relationship. I know it's hard to do so in the heat of the moment, but you'll want to keep a long-term view. Ask yourself "is this something I'm going to regret saying later?" before you let it out.
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