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Locations For Love

By Jayde Johanssen

Dating is a confusing thing. Not everyone is looking for the same thing, but it is rare that this reality is recognized at the beginning of a relationship. Unfortunately the true intentions and desires of each party are usually realized once some kind of connection has been made. This connection makes the subsequent break a little more painful for at least one of the individuals involved.

Men have the unfortunate reputation of being the ones who break hearts and bounce from woman to woman, being averse to real relationships and commitment. While this might be true at times, there are plenty of women out there who have done their fair share of heart breaking and dumping.

Individuals do not walk around with signs around their necks letting the world know exactly what they are looking for, nor should they. This ambiguity of desires however, is where a lot of relationship problems originate. A man who is looking for a serious relationship might be wary about heading out into the dating world, but being careful about where he seeks women out can definitely work in his favor, improving the chances of finding the right woman for him.

The blaring music and flowing booze that are found in clubs and bars make them ideal places to meet a hookup, and a completely terrible place to meet someone to start a deeper relationship with. It is difficult to carry out any kind of conversation and get even a basic idea of who a person is, which is not typically a good start to a relationship.

Approaching a woman while she is out and about in her daily routine makes her feel like a man is interested in more than just her appearance. Opening with a comment about what she may be doing, reading, or drinking is a good way to start a conversation without being overwhelming or awkward.

When a woman is approached while doing one of her daily tasks she feels as if the man might be interested in her as something more than just a piece of meet. The manner in which a man approaches is also important. Creepy is creepy whether in a bar or bookstore so it is important that a man remain casual, friendly, and respectful when trying to talk to a woman.

Though a man may be looking for a serious relationship, he should not necessarily advertise this fact right off the bat. While it might be a nice change of pace for some women, not all women are looking for deep relationships all of the time.

Sending e-mails back and forth gives both parties the chance to get a better feeling about the other person before giving the direct line of communication in the form of a number. Even if a man is looking for a real relationship, it is important that they not lead with this fact. While some women might find it refreshing and endearing, women are just as capable of being freaked out by commitment as men, especially early in a relationship.

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